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I'm just going to dive in here because I am about to jump out of my skin and I'm trying to not do anything rash...

My oldest son, Cherokee, has been living with my ex, Brent, in WA for the past 4 years. My ex is not his father, but my son was going through some really bad stuff and needed to go. So when he was 10 I took him out there. The deal was that my ex's mom, Lannette, would take Cherokee, but my ex has been doing all the day-to-day stuff. Why? Because he is a 36-year-old momma's boy who refuses to work (I'm sure you can see why he's an ex). He is using my son as a meal ticket so he can stay with his mother. But his mom has to work her ass off to afford the two boys. It would be a different story if Lannette would get the courage to kick her freeloading son out.

All in all, Brent is doing a good job with Cherokee. My son is straightened out, happy, and getting almost straight A's in school. Things go swell for a while, then something happens that pisses me off. Like having to explain why I took Cherokee out there at least every 6 months because Brent has no ability to retain this information. Or when I find out that Brent is using my son to get women to date him by letting them believe that I "abandoned my son and left Brent a single dad who has to take of his mother because she can't take care of herself".

The latest thing is that Brent is allowing his latest girlfriend to post pictures of my son on her facebook profile. This is not ok because my psychotic brother and insane mother like to stalk me online, which means they probably stalk Brent and whatever latest girlfriend he has. My mom wants to get Cherokee so she can hurt me and my brother is like her henchman, willing to do whatever it takes to make our mother happy. The most important part here is that my mother and brother live in WA, too.

Tonight, Brent decided to read me the riot act over the picture ordeal. I'm irked because I am so tired of having to explain these things. I also don't like being treated as though I don't have a say in my son's life.

I think I'm done ranting. It just seemed like it would be better to let it out here than on my fiance. He is just as bothered by Brent as I am lately.

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I'm not entirely sure there's much I can give by way of advise on this, other than to see if you can just spend some time with your son alone, fly him out to you if you can afford it for a couple weeks, just the two of you and take the time to talk. Time spent together means more to a child than any amount of presents or phone calls, however, if phone calls is all you are able to muster (I don't know your whole situation), then make the most of that time with him.

As far as the rest of the situation goes ... all I can offer is a virtual hug.

Is there noway the lad could move back with you? If his head is in a good place now...... Kinda hard to know what to say Rant away I'll read it, mainly because I'm nosey but also I guess I'm a big softy.

Ex's GF has no right really to stick pictures of him up I can think of few reasons a GF would want to...... she wierd?

My son has a ticket to fly out here for Christmas. If things don't change by then, I'll just keep him here instead of sending him back.

I think Brent is manipulating his GF to get the results he wants. If she gets on his bandwagon, then he gets more praise and attention from her. He doesn't realize that it is jeopardizing my relationship with my son and that he isn't in a position to make important decisions about my son's life.

I'm getting really frustrated because I have yet to get in touch with Lannette today. Grrr...

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My suggestion is brewing everyone up a friendly batch of poison arrow dart frog tea.....of course that has been my suggestion for years....in particular reference to your mother and brother ( though I think for them I kept making flower in the attic references....it's been so long though....)

*hugs*

Maybe some cake?



Mystery cake?

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Ooooh! I love cake!

Mommy dearest... *grumble*

For some reason the whole Cake thing reminded me of Stephen King's "Thinner"....
Maybe that be what you need be serving dem peepuhl who be vexin you...... a cursed pastry!!!!!!

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAA!!!!!



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I wouldn't be surprised if my secret super power had something to do with dastardly donuts!

WeEeEeEelLllLLLL your name IS KRISPY..........




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Amazingly enough, that came about purely by accident and without relation to my love for tasty treats.