The Noble Pagan Forums - I just don't know...

ok... I've been divorced for almost two years now. There's this guy, Johnathan, that I went to school with about eleven years ago. He's a really great guy and we were always friends. I haven't seen him in almost five years and now he's back in town for good and has asked me out in a few drinks and we spent the weekend hanging out. Sounds pretty good I suppose.

He's married. They are getting a divorce finalized and it is over religion. She's Catholic and he's Christopagan (protestant mostly). They just couldn't hold the relationship together with such differing views. He's spent most of the last two days talking to me about it and though he hasn't just come out and said so point blank he has hinted that he's interested in having a relationship with me.

Now my marrage to Charles ended on a similar note. We lost our children and then we lost everything else. He was a hardcore Baptist (just like my mother ) and I am purely pagen. We only got married in the first place (mostly but not entirely) because I was pregnant. I regret every single day of our marriage.

Now the thing I really am worried about... Is it worth the risk? Don't get me wrong... I'm only 26 so I'm still young. I'm not neccesarily desparate to lock myself away into a life long commitment but I always look at it that way. "Is this someone I can spend the rest of my life with?" You know, just incase it happens so you don't end up making (or possibly repeating) bad decisions. I really... really... REALLY like Johnathan and as far as likes, dislikes and personality goes we really compliment each other nicely.

So what do you think? I'm obvioulsy going to way till everything is legally over and done with before saying anything to him... unless he says something first... But I just don't know.

Sounds like you have a lot of things to think about. I trust that you can listen to your inner voice. Listen to your doubts, but don't let them rule you. Regardless of whether you spend the rest of your life with him, you will be spending the rest of your life with you. You deserve to live a good life, however you choose to define it.

Rule of thumb: take one year off after divorce. He should really take the time to find himself again after his divorce is final. You should respect yourself enough to give him that time. It is not healthy to jump from relationship to relationship. Plus, it would give the two of you time to get to know each other.

I agree with Kris, she knows what she's talking about too. I've seen her through a few divorces and break ups and such like.

You don't want to be the rebound girl for him. That's never fun especially if you like him a whole lot. *hugs* See if whatever lord or lady you speak to has anything to say. I always start there when I think about things like dating.