The Noble Pagan Forums - A nice little lesson

At work again, but there is this kid from the neighborhood named Ryan he is 12ish and for the most part an annoying little terd. A lil history on Ryan he comes from a broken home in which mama is worthless and all employees suspect a hard drug addict so needless to say he is neglected. Tonight his older sister beat him up pretty bad and he came here to hide and wait for his mother who said she would be home by 7pm. I get to work at 9pm Ryan is still here waiting. Instantly i take the stance of great im stuck with him again. So i start doing as much busy work as i can to somewhat avoid him. But he is following me like a puppy. He asks me if there is anything he can do to help me so i have him do little things like opening cooler doors for me and watching out for customers while im in the back room. A beautiful transfomation happened annoying lil Ryan turns out to be quite a good helper. We ended up having a wonderful in depth conversation about video games which i found out he is very versed in. So in the end the ole lesson of dont judge a book by its cover bit me in my ass again. Goes to show ya give anyone a chance and you may be surprised at what you find under their shell.

First of all I want to beat the mother senseless. She has this awesome son that no one wants to see for what he is because of the opinions they have on his Mother. She's totally screwing this kid out of a decent childhood

Secondly I'm really delighted you took the time to talk to this kid. Perhaps you should make it a habit to have him around? It seems he could use a little love from someone, the security of knowing someone cares and it'll keep him out of trouble.

Good job!

Our whole store kinda watches out for the lil guy as we know he has shit at home. I agree she should get hers i guess she has been turned into to social services but they have done squat. My boss gave him a pair of gloves today he had to walk to school in our lovely blizzard were getting and had shit but a crappy coat.

I think this is what I have been trying to teach our kid...I guess dad needs the lesson too.

But there is a little things called karma, and I have learned not the mess with it/her....

it may not happen right away, but they will get what they have coming to them. And shame on social services, they are suppose to protect these kids from these people or said parents....

I would say Social Services is a load of crap. However it is sad because it isn't. Not at its newby eyed core. It is burned out, sad, tired and dead in its core.
It was na always like that. It once had a purpose....
It's like a well meaning reflex or organ whose meaning has been lost through evolution, leaving the rest of us ( and it) guessing at it's original purpose.
I've seen good people get grilled and almost trainwrecked and the most incompetant piece of shit people get bypassed or wrist slapped. First hand no less.
The kid.....he is what is important. No he is not yours or the shop's. That is not his fault. His mom being far removed is not his fault either ( though he prolly feels or hears it is). She is beyond taking a clue or getting help.
The easy thing is to turn away with "it is na my problem". And you are right. It is hers and his.
He's getting the short end of the stick. To no fault of his own ( to a point).
The answer or cure?
If it were that simple.
The best you can do is continue to influence him positively. To care. To show he CAN do something. Is competant enough to be even minimally important. One person's minimum is another's apex.
She'll prolly go unpunished. Even if she is punished she won't get it. The sad thing is he is. Punished. And does na get why. It's no wonder he is angry and does wrong things.
Just treat him like the human being he wants to prove he is. It could go miles. It could go no where.
The point is, you all treating him like something that matters gives him that much more to compare to and bat stuff off of later on.It's something he doesn't get a chance at where he should.

Then again that is just my two guatalajaran centavos....

C/S/

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